For many, the initial attraction to BDSM is compelling. There’s a curiosity to explore power dynamics, to give up control or take it in a way that feels both freeing, erotic and exhilarating. The promise of self-discovery, creativity, and even spiritual awakening is alluring, empowering. There’s the possibility of uncovering aspects of oneself that have been repressed or hidden, breaking through the barriers of conventionality and entering a world where the mind and body are stretched in new, intense ways.

Yet, alongside this desire lies the looming fear. The fear of what others might think, the fear of vulnerability, and perhaps most pressing—the fear of change. To embrace BDSM is to open the door to new experiences that can feel destabilising, even threatening, and immensely erotic in the moment. Until… waking up from a hot fantasy, or even better a scene, questions arise often unwarranted: How will this fit with my life? Can I keep this hidden? What if I can’t handle it?

'By honouring where we are at any given time, what we need from ourselves, our submissives, and the world, we can truly enjoy our art / practice and Domme from a “filled tank”, from abundance. "

Sergueï opens the door of the vehicle and you step out, vacillating slightly on the uneven ground.

A few stairs, a landing and in the cooler air of a vast hall, a new actor to this invisible scene you are both spectator and elected subject greets you with a collar and leash. 

It seems that the hands of your new warden are female, softer yet determined. You follow the nearly imperceptible sounds of her steps to a flight of stairs spiralling downwards and a narrow corridor. A door opens, you are ushered in your cell.