A selection of Maitresse Nuit aka Nuit d'Or's articles on the psychology of BDSM & kink, relationship dynamics between Dominant & submissive, adventures in BDSM, evocative, erotic and very transgressive memoirs of past sessions. Here you can dive in the “BDSM Chronicles” which you can listen to on Patreon.

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BDSM CEREMONIES: Part II CATHARSIS… AN ACT OF LOVE

“Her position as submissive is active: she is the altar as well as the sacrifice. Two seemingly antagonistic images rise in my mind as Guillaume and I tighten the fetters, fasten the buckles, arrange her lovely copper hair, and acquaint myself with the grain of her pale skin: Iphigenia at Aulis… and a Maenad. Quiet surrender and commitment to martyrdom on the one hand, and a ferocious, visceral craving to be taken by a mighty force on the other. To be at one, perhaps? To be transformed beyond her humanity by experiencing the extremes of her own frailty?”

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BDSM POWER GAMES: PUSHING LIMITS and PLAYING AT THE EDGE OF THE UNBEARABLE.

“I want him to endure for my pleasure, though not at my hands. I will not be the one feeding him the energy of dominance; I will watch, preside, and contain the scene within the hierarchy of power: Maîtresse at the pinnacle, Master as the executor, and [helot] as the supplicant and devotee.”

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