A selection of Maitresse Nuit aka Nuit d'Or's articles on the psychology of BDSM & kink, relationship dynamics between Dominant & submissive, adventures in BDSM, evocative, erotic and very transgressive memoirs of past sessions. Here you can dive in the “BDSM Chronicles” which you can listen to on Patreon.
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INTIMACY, GENDER REVERSAL, THE FEMALE COCK: musing on a photo set by Natasha Gornik
“The photo centres on a woman looking directly at the camera in a man’s attire, holding a bundle of rope, seated with her legs wide open. Her necktie is undone, seemingly at the ready to be used as a blindfold, gag or bondage. The shirt is unbuttoned to the sternum. The opened collar draws an arrow of near cinnamon skin which emphasises the intent of the woman’s gaze and then leads the eyes to the geometrically lit hand and the rope in a continuous loop.”
FLAGELLATION | Canes & single tail whip, the final ordeal.
“One after the other, the canes whistle and cut a lattice pattern of swollen white ridges across your buttocks which first turn to red, then purple. Each new cane slotting its strikes in the imprints of the previous ones, deepening the dents until the tender skin gives and blood rises to the surface.”
THE ART OF BALANCING DESIRES: exploring eroticism beyond the shores of vanilla sex into femdom based bdsm and/or kink within a relationship.
Balancing desires presupposes that both partners have a sense of what they like and wish to experience, that they are aware of their sexual fantasies and that they are prepared to talk openly with each other