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The Collaring Ceremony: A Ritual of Passage in Power Exchange
“M-von-s watches as the blade tears the diaphanous fabric, each fibre severed with careful precision. He The initiate does not miss the way her breath catches, nor the manner her body tenses at the steel’s kiss. The knowledge that he the new slave will follow where she leads coils within, a tightening thread of devotion and fear.
“She is both slave and Goddess. Be mindful of the pain she receives tonight—you will endure the same. Accept it with the same grace.”
There is no hesitation. M-von-s nods, absorbing my words, understanding their weight. To take pain is not simply to endure; it is to receive. It is an exchange, an offering, and a claim.
The slave watches marie gwendoline’s ordeal.
Supported by sergei, she yields to the whip.”
A collaring ceremony is a ritual of passage, marking the deepening of the power exchange between Dominant and submissive.
PROLOGUE
A collaring ceremony is a ritual of passage, marking the deepening of the power exchange between Dominant and submissive. It is also intensely personal and marks a new stage, and level of mutual commitment in that journey. In the world of BDSM, such ceremonies serve as rites of initiation, evoking echoes of ancient vows, religious consecration, and the investiture of knights. To be collared is to be transformed, to cross the threshold from independent selfhood into a state of submission where one’s identity is reframed through service, devotion, and surrender.
The ritual is a crucible of endurance, trust, and irrevocable commitment. My dominance is accepted as absolute within the context of D/s, yet it is layered with a calculated interplay of discipline and reverence, demanding not just obedience but spiritual surrender. The ceremony is designed to strip my soon to be collared slave - of any lingering resistance, symbolically breaking him open so that he may be reforged—his pain, his sacrifice, his blood serving as the currency of his submission.
I am not alone conducing this rite. Three other Mistresses—Miss Meyers, Mistress Siren, and Lady Lola—each embodying a facet of feminine dominance and power—stand as witnesses, initiators, and deities before whom the submissives must prove their worth. They are priestesses of the rite, shaping and testing the submissive spirit of my long time devotee and now initiate slave m-von-s…
The rest lies behind the curtain.
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BDSM RITUAL | Eros, Thanatos, the Dionysian tension of pain and pleasure
“As my black patent stilettos rest on his shoulders, he will breathe and become more in tune with his aroused senses, with his yearnings, with his fear and elation elicited by the contact of his Dominant… enhancing the chaos of his senses. Together we will transmute our consciousnesses via the power created by the tension between Eros and Thanatos.”
The lure of the Ritual: the yearning of the submissive, the allure of the Mistress… The call of the Goddess.
Rain is pouring down in London as I write and echoes the surprise I reserve to my slave. As he will close the door and draws the taffeta curtain which muffles sounds, he will be aware of the manny candles flickering in the womblike room .He will be aware of the familiar scents of tuberose and sage. And he will lift a furtive eye to the throne where I sit: hieratic presence In black velvet absorbing the swaying light. He will notice that my face is partially obscured from his sight by a black leather mask. As he will kneel in offering, walk on his fours towards me and then lie on his stomach in a cross to start his descent into the realm of the Goddess, he will melt onto the Persian carpet covered today with hessian, surrendering little by little his mundane persona, and hopefully, his will. Maybe at this point, he will take notice of the music playlist I have carefully curated for the ritual
A Cypher is formed in the continuous feedback loop between the Dominatrix and his submissive
As my black patent stilettos rest on his shoulders, he will breathe and become more in tune with his aroused senses, with his yearnings, with his fear and elation elicited by the contact of his Dominant.
Then my voice will change tone as I will start the incantation to the Goddess which we’ll both honour during the ritual. He might suspend his rational thoughts or not, in a way, it is inconsequential because the words I pronounce weave a further layer of intent into the space.
I will then collar him and this last action will conclude the first stage of his descent to the unification with the much longed for Feminine Principle.
Eros, Thanatos, the Dionysian tension of pain and pleasure
The ritual will last for 2, 3 or 5 hours, depending on what we have discussed and agreed upon, the outcome is always about Connection with a deep and often blurred longing. I, as the Dominant of this dyad receive the worship, the pledges, the adoration, the offering of the will and the obedience of my submissive. These manifestations are the “fire” of “the matter” , the “body-mind” which I will work with, enhancing the chaos of his senses. Together we will transmute our consciousnesses via the power created by the tension between Eros and Thanatos, metaphors of life and death.
Today’s ritual will last three hours: It is a rain metaphor; Ice melting, droplets of blood, candle wax and the Golden nectar of Maîtresse: Mana from the Goddess.
My submissive’s wrists will be hooked to his collar and his ankles will be attached to a spreading bar as he will lie on his back on the hessian cloth covering the persian carpet. The first ordeal will come in the form of needles : from nipples down to the pubic bone and around his gland, then down his cock and along the midline of his scrotum.
For the second ordeal, the ankles and wrists cuffs will be removed and I will securely tie him from feet to torso in a rope bondage. I will then use ice to cool his skin and then let the wax of a black candle drip on his body, insisting on tender parts: the nipples, the groin, balls and cock.
For the last part of the ceremony, my submissive will have to worm his way towards the throne and lie on the platform which will be slotted to the perspex case attached to the feet of my Bondage chair. He will lie his head in the metal contraption which I will close. Barb wires surround the large window around the mouth, so complete stillness is a must whilst receiving the nectar from above.
After the Ritual is completed, my slave will retire to wash and maybe Champagne will be served…. Who knows?
Maîtresse Nuit
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“Different Loving” by Gloria G. Brame, William D. Brame and Jon Jacobs
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