A selection of Maitresse Nuit aka Nuit d'Or's articles on the psychology of BDSM & kink, relationship dynamics between Dominant & submissive, adventures in BDSM, evocative, erotic and very transgressive memoirs of past sessions. Here you can dive in the “BDSM Chronicles” which you can listen to on Patreon.
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CHASTITY AND ORGASM DENIAL, DISPLACING FOCUS FROM SELF TO SERVICE AND SUBMISSION: EXPANDING POWER EXCHANGE IN FEMALE LEAD RELATIONSHIPS.
One of the fundamental tools of Power Exchange is orgasm control, denial and chastity. It encourages the submissive to forfeit their own gratification and channel the energy of desire and lust into the service and care of their Dominant. It opens up their attention to other areas of their life which can blossom with the re-directed energy.
BDSM POWER GAMES: PUSHING LIMITS and PLAYING AT THE EDGE OF THE UNBEARABLE.
“I want him to endure for my pleasure, though not at my hands. I will not be the one feeding him the energy of dominance; I will watch, preside, and contain the scene within the hierarchy of power: Maîtresse at the pinnacle, Master as the executor, and [helot] as the supplicant and devotee.”